Anonymous asked:

Is it right for a psychologist to ask you questions like, are you horny and are you having lots of sex? I felt like I was being taken advantage of by someone who had authority over me because of his profession, and that I was being held as an emotional hostage by him and verbally violated. He asked questions using those terms a few times until I refused to see him for my med checks anymore.. To this day, it is hard for me to trust psychologists, particularly male psychologists.

ibelieveyouitsnotyourfault:

The most important thing about seeing a therapist or psychologist is that you trust them. If you felt violated and taken advantage of, that’s what matters, and your feelings are valid. You were so strong to break away from someone you felt was holding you hostage; that’s really hard to do, especially when they control your medication. You have every right to make the decisions about what psychologist you see, and to keep looking until you find one you trust with your health and your most private thoughts. I’m so sorry he set your recovery back with his violation." - Stefanie

Whoa! That is completely unprofessional conduct from a mental health professional—ANY health professional. Good for you for getting away from this person. Finding a healthcare professional that fits your needs is not always easy. Not all psychologists/psychiatrists/counselors are good people and not all of them are good at their jobs. Just that they have an office with a degree on the wall does not mean they are an authority on you or even minimally proficient at treating people. If you feel more comfortable being treated by a woman, damn right! That’s not a problem you have. You solved a problem you had by doing what is right for you and your health and getting away from a predator in a white coat. You are such a hero for getting away." - Jennifer

It’s a fine, fine line. In my personal experience: I have bipolar disorder, and because hypersexuality is a symptom of manic episodes, it’s appropriate (and actually sort of essential) for my doctors to ask me about my level of sexual drive and activity. But there’s a way to ask that’s appropriate and uses clinical/tactful language, and a way that’s inappropriate. If I had a male doctor (or female doctor, for that matter) use the term ‘horny’ with me in a clinical setting, I wouldn’t like it AT ALL, and I think you were right to start seeing a different doctor. Your mental health care space should be the safest (or one of the safest) spaces in your life, and you’re absolutely within your rights to trust your gut and get out if you feel violated. Don’t worry about how you SHOULD feel, worry about how you DO feel, and trust that feeling." - Lauren

It is not right at all. It sounds abusive to me. He should not have done that to you. I don’t blame you for feeling distrustful at all. My first gynecologist was a man. I was 18 and I remember how he rubbed his hands up and down my legs and told me I had a nice tan. I really needed help because I was in pain with cysts on my ovaries but I told my mother I didn’t want to go back to him. From then on it has been female gynecologists for me and even then I need to make sure I have one that I feel I can trust. A therapist especially needs to feel like someone who has got you and who is not going to expose and exploit you. I am so sorry this happened to you. I hope you can find someone who will treat you with the respect and care you deserve." - Myfanwy

"While the topic of sexual activity seems to me like it will sometimes belong in a psychologist-patient relationship, language like ‘horny’ sure isn’t right coming from a person of authority. That’s creepy and inappropriate. Give yourself a hug for removing yourself from his ‘care.’" - Meredith

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humansofnewyork:

“We were laying in bed just the other night, looking at the ceiling, and I said: ‘You know, it’s been thirty years, and it’s never felt worn. There’s never been a sense of tiredness with you.’”

OH.MY.GOD. 

humansofnewyork:

“We were laying in bed just the other night, looking at the ceiling, and I said: ‘You know, it’s been thirty years, and it’s never felt worn. There’s never been a sense of tiredness with you.’”

OH.MY.GOD. 

palestinianliberator:

setfabulazerstomaximumcaptain:

sonic-hip-attack:

canikon-bokeh:

Exactly. 

Imagine a wall full of circular holes, that circles can keep walking in and out of with no difficulty.

Now imagine that the triangles manage to get the resources together, after years of not being able to fit through the circle’s holes, to drill a single triangle space into the wall.

Now imagine that the circle — who previously supported the triangle’s efforts because they are well-rounded (har) and value equality —  comes along and sees the construction project. But instead of being happy, they get angry.

“Well, I won’t be able to fit through your hole!!!!” the circle cries.

“I helped you get the drill!!!!” the circle shrieks.

“Make it fit me too!!!!” the circle demands.

The triangles, barely holding it together enough to get a triangle hole together, stare at the circle in confusion. 

“You have all the holes you need,” the triangles explain. “This is for us. You don’t need to fit through our hole, too.”

“YOU’RE BEING UNEQUAL AND HURTING MY FEELINGS!” the circle wails. “I DON’T SUPPORT YOUR HOLE IF IT DOESN’T FIT ME TOO. GIVE ME MY DRILL BACK.” 

“It’s not your drill, it’s our drill. You helped us get it, because you said you cared.”

“I ONLY CARED WHEN I THOUGHT YOU’D MAKE A HOLE EVERYONE COULD FIT THROUGH. YOU’RE PERPETUATING INEQUALITY!!!”

“Why is it up to us, the small group that has never been able to fit through the wall at all, to make a hole everyone can use? Why isn’t it up to you, the people who have been able to cross back and forth at will for years? We just want to see the other side; why are you yelling at us?”

“I DIDN’T ASK TO BE BORN A CIRCLE, OMG. I’VE HAD TO WORK HARD ALL MY LIFE TOO. YOU’RE JUST BEING BIGOTED AGAINST ME BECAUSE OF SOMETHING I CAN’T CONTROL, JUST LIKE EVERYONE IS AGAINST YOU.”

“You are interfering with our project and asking us to comfort you while we’re trying to make progress. Please leave.”

“I’m going to tell everyone about this,” the circle warns. “Nobody will support you now.”

“Apparently nobody ever did,” the triangles sigh, getting back to work.

It’s kind of sad

That we have to draw comics using colorful shapes

To explain systematic inequality to people

Reblogging again because yes good

Never seen it explained better.

(via petrichorpoetry)